7 Tips for Fathers Seeking Child Custody

When parents divorce, kids are often caught in the crossfire. Of course, it would be ideal if children could spend equal time with both parents, and be well cared-for and loved by both. Unfortunately, often one parent has more parenting skills, abilities, resources, or struggles less with the stress of divorce, and as such, is awarded primary custody. However, battles can be difficult when a father is the more suitable primary custodian for children.

Although there is a trend of more fathers getting custody of their children, there are still many more cases in which mothers win. There are many reasons for this, but traditionally, priority has been given to mothers because they are considered the innate nurturers, while fathers are more often seen as a paycheck to fulfill children’s physical needs.

If you are a dad who is going through a divorce and think that it would be best for your kids to be primarily or solely with you, consider these tips from fathers who have won custody and experts in the field:

1. Document everything. This pertains to most every other step as well, but it can’t be over-emphasized. Keep track of communications and activities with your kids, your ex, and everyone involved in the care of your children.
2. Be involved in your child’s education. Attend parent-teacher conferences.
3. Make sure to attend special events. There may be some awkward moments, but it is important that you demonstrate how supportive you can be and that you are going to be there for your children.
4. Put together a photo album. Include pictures of you and your kids spending time together.
5. Prioritize things like parental evaluations and depositions. They can be costly, but it can be worth it in the long run.
6. Be as calm as possible. Though it can be difficult, be calm in every interaction with your ex, as well as with her family, friends, or new love interest. Use attorneys for communication if things are too heated.
7. Work with an experienced divorce attorney. An attorney can answer any questions you may have and advise you each step of the way.

For More Information

If you are a father seeking custody of your children, you may be in the midst of one of the toughest and most important battles of your life. Contact an Oceanside divorce lawyer of Fischer & Van Thiel, LLP, at 760-722-7646 to begin working with knowledgeable and dedicated attorneys today.