Many people don’t actually realize what a serious offense domestic violence really is. Long ago, domestic violence was primarily seen as a scandalous thing to be spoken about in whispers behind somebody’s back, but not something most folks were the least bit inclined to intervene in, as it was a matter for the family to sort out for themselves. Times certainly have changed.
Nowadays, you definitely don’t have to worry that nobody wants to help in a domestic violence situation. In fact you’ll probably have the opposite problem-that they’re too keen, which can lead to other problems if the timing is off. One thing that hasn’t changed is that a huge number of people don’t realize how dangerous a domestic violence situation can become. In particular, if somebody feels they have nothing left to lose, they’re potentially an incredible danger to anyone in their immediate vicinity.
Being clever and strategic about withdrawing from a domestic violence situation is crucial. You need to take into account the level of threat that you are facing from your attacker, and your response to the situation should be calculated based on that. The worst thing you can do in most domestic violence situations is to use any kind of threat indicating that you’ll leave or that you’re calling the police. You definitely should call the police if you can, but informing the attacker that you’re doing so is not a smart move.
Ideally you should try to remove yourself from the violent situation if it is possible. Escaping to a public place will normally be enough. From there you can call the police, and under no circumstances should you return to the scene. If you can’t get out of the house, you should try to call from a relatively safe location inside the house and barricade yourself until help arrives.
When the police arrive at your home, you can obtain a temporary restraining order which imposes a legal order for the attacker to not approach anywhere near you. Because people in an agitated state don’t always give much regard to legal orders, it’s usually unwise to rely on the temporary restraining order alone to protect you. Again, you’ll need to use your judgment and assess the threat level before making a decision, but in a lot of cases the smart move is to not stay in a place where they know you’re at unless you have others around you who can provide protection.
A temporary restraining order is just that: temporary. In order to keep somebody permanently away from you, you’ll need a final restraining order. To get this, it’s best to have the services of a lawyer, in particular an experienced lawyer with a history of success in obtaining restraining orders, such as Oceanside domestic violence attorneys Fischer & Van Thiel.
Violating a final restraining order is a serious offense. Unlike the situation with a temporary restraining order, by the time you are granted a final restraining order, tempers will usually have cooled and a more rational mindset should prevail. Most of the time, you’ll be safe in your own home in these conditions, but of course you should take all necessary precautions. At the first sign that the restraining order is about to be violated, you should call the police and have the perpetrator arrested.